DATING STILL SUCKS

Maybe I'm just picky? I just don't know. I can't seem to find anyone I'd actually be interested in seeing long term. Well, there is one guy, but we haven't even really hung out yet, so maybe it's just all in my head?

Okay, so here's the thing that has made me want to write a third post in this beautiful series. If we go out, please don't make every conversation about you just telling me stories about your life. Don't interrupt my stories with other stories about yourself, your friends, or your hobbies. And DEFINITELY don't tell me you got lunch with your ex-girlfriend earlier on the day of our F I R S T  D A T E. This could be a huge turn off right from the get go for most girls. Luckily, hours earlier, I determined that we had absolutely nothing in common and this probably wouldn't work out. I literally can't make this stuff up y'all. 

Also, don't make me ask all the questions and keep the conversation flowing. I am really trying here. I don't know what else to do at this point. When half the night is spent in silence I really don't see how anyone would even want to go on a second date? So, this all happens over the course of three hours and I'm like okay, maybe this dude is just nervous, right? So, we go on a second, informal date. Which ends up being worse, and I leave after about half an hour of listening to him (on my last day of college) bash college and how stupid post-high school education is. You should always do your background research on who you're seeing, folks. 

I've been trying to flat out ghost this person, who we will call Mason from here on out, but I am just way too nice for that. There are many other things I could tell you about Mason, but I do not want him to read this and know it is about him.

So, here's what I'm complaining about today. How do you let someone down easy? Especially someone you know you are going to see frequently due to circumstantial reasons. There was no reason that I don't want to see him again besides the fact that we literally have nothing in common and absolutely nothing to talk about. Our conversations online consist of empty Snapchats with no text anywhere. At a certain point I just stop wasting my time answering because, what's the point of sending empty Snapchats. You are clearly making no effort to get to know me, and I know more than enough about you, since you literally Google Mapped where you went to high school to prove to me that it "really is a super tiny school."

*(I have a feeling Mason is going to read this and know it's about him, but what are you going to do about it.)* 

Every other guy I've been "talking to" is equally as frustrating, emotionally unavailable, or just not my type. Not that I really have a type, I don't think. And to be completely honest, I don't even have the time to date! I really haven't been lying to the guys that ask me out when I say I really am quite busy, I just don't want to spend my few spare days off on bad dates. 

This is really just a longwinded way of me saying that I am really, really, really tired of men. I am really tired of putting in effort and not feeling it reciprocated. I feel like Mason just wants someone to look pretty with and had absolutely no intention of actually getting to know anyone deeper than on a pretty basic level. To me, that is a complete waste of my time, again my free days are very far and few between, I don't really want to spend them with someone who cannot hold a conversation with me. 

A friend, who is currently going through a divorce, told me something that I will live by from here on out: "Opposites don't attract. Well, they do for a little bit, but then those things that attracted you become annoyances. Marry someone who you have things in common with. Someone who enjoys all the same things as you, so you have things to enjoy together." 

This is so true. I think it is important to do things separate, but when you have literally nothing in common, what do you do together that you both enjoy after a couple years of pretending to care about what your partner cares about. To me, I'd rather be with someone who has a similar passion for either reading, writing, photography, or perhaps a combination of two or all three. Of course, every time I read or write something I don't want my partner to be by my side, but it would be nice to be able to share my work with someone who actually gives a toot about it. 




Thanks for reading my complaints for the past ten minutes, I sincerely appreciate it. Here's one of my most recent pictures that I've posted on Instagram in an attempt to become more comfortable with taking selfies and my face in general. 

Let me know what you think in the comments, do "opposites attract?" 
Or is it about finding balance between similarities and differences in a partner. 

Talk soon! 
XOXO Ken

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