How to be Happy

Yay! New blog space! I want to be consistent and hopefully inspire and motivate a readership this year, so a new blog seemed like the best way to do this. Here we go!
The most recent discovery in my life is learning how to be happy and confident. I think that having the motivation to live my best life is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. I basically grew up with depression and didn't really understand why I was here and what my purpose was on this earth. I know a lot of my friends feel the exact same way and when I finally came out of this never-ending funk in June of 2018, I wanted to do everything in my power to help my friends out of this as well.
I have found that growing up with depression only made my adult life more daunting and terrifying. I felt as if I shouldn't have even made it this far in my life, so what am I going to do now? I had no idea what direction I wanted to go in with a career or with my life outside of my mom's house and the neighborhood I grew up in. I didn't think I was prepared for adulthood a year ago. Granted, I am only 21 and I don't even think I am really an "adult" yet, but I do feel much more prepared and excited for the future than I ever have.
This new found motivation began when I ended a very serious relationship I was in that I felt was holding me back from what I could be doing with my life. We were also keeping our relationship a secret from my family, which did not help the amount of stress I was undergoing. I finally realized our relationship was a dead-end and that I couldn't be happy with someone my family did not approve of. My family is very important to me and having them be a part of my life and future relationships have been what really pushed me over the edge as to breaking it off with this person, regardless of how much I really truly loved them.
Being free from this toxic relationship helped me to see the beauty in life in ways I never had before. I found myself enjoying life more and feeling as if a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I was happy and free to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I was even able to travel to England for the Christmas holiday, which is something I never would have been able to do in this relationship. Not by myself, at least, which was very eye-opening in itself, being able to travel and have new foreign experiences on my own.
So, how am I keeping this depression away?
I am continuing on my anti-depressants, just to make sure that I am doing okay and once I feel confident enough to stop taking them, I plan to begin that journey.
I also am finding small things in life to look forward to. I am planning small day trips with my friends and I am able to hang out with my friends more now that my S.O. is not holding me back from seeing them. These small events and day trips really give me something to look forward to and they constantly keep me excited and wanting the days to pass by faster. For example, on Friday, my best friend and I are spending the day in Tampa to try and find some cool cafes and mural walls to take cute pictures in front of. This has kept me going through the week, making it breeze by and making everything so much easier.
I also have learned that it is okay to spend money on experiences. This is where you should spend your money if you have the extra money to spend. Fancy restaurants and day trips and even occasionally treating yourself to nice things like clothing and jewelry are all things that we deserve from time to time. That doesn't necessarily mean you should eat at a fancy steakhouse every night, but do not withhold these experiences from yourself because you are afraid of spending the money. Getting dressed up with your friends and going somewhere fancy on occasion can be SO fun. And in relation to say, planning a weekend getaway, can be the more affordable option.
TRAVEL. As a 21-year-old about to graduate with a Bachelor's degree in Literature, I have no idea where I want to work or what I want to do with my degree. I know I have the time and funds to travel, so I plan on spending the next few months, after graduation, exploring the world. I know some people do not have crazy amounts of money to travel constantly, but there is something about going somewhere I've never been before that makes me feel so alive and in control of my own future. I really felt that when I was in London and loved the feeling, so this is something that I am going to take advantage of in 2019.



The biggest take away from this would be: You are in control of your own life. If you don't like it, change it. There is nothing stopping you from living your happiest, most exciting life. Figure out what it is that makes you excited and stand by it. Allow it to fuel your life and keep you inspired and motivated.



XOXO Ken

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